Why is so Hard to say it?

Dear Bastorah,

Lately I feel that my spouse doesn't ever pay me a compliment,tell me that I'm attractive, assure me that I'm still desirable despite my mood swings and the fact that I've gained weight and am getting older, or say's "I love you," unless its just to be polite because I said it first. This feels like neglect. I feel so lonely. Is love a one-way street?

How many of you feel the way I do?

How many of you that feels the way I do are men?

I am so in love with her. During the clean days I am so sad not to be able to touch her. I look forward to mikvah night like a starving man waits for a meal. It becomes the most important thing for me.I live in a place where there's a lot of upheaval.

On our coming mikvah night, there is a very important event. Its very important for the good of Am Yisrael for everyone to get involved. She thinks it's pitiful to stay home that night just because of mikvah night. She's right. The future of the Jewish people is more important than my broken heart and swollen nuts. On the other hand, lets say we aren't together on mikvah night because something else outside of me is more important (as if!), still, I wish she could appreciate the way I feel and consider it a positive thing, rather than just a sign of pitiful weakness.

RCA