Divorce
Why do couple divorce? What is a true blue good reason why after being married you decide you don’t want to be tied down to this person anymore? Assuming both sides have not cheated, give me reasons that would validate divorce.
How after x amount of years with kids in tow, do you wake up and decide; now I don’t want to live with my spouse anymore. Now is as good of a time as any to move out. I am not happy. I am miserable, so why suffer any longer?! Why do I have to sacrifice my life for the sake of my kids? Isn’t it going to affect them either way? I mean having a mother and father who don’t show any love or seem to bicker constantly would have the same affect on them or even worse off than having the parents live in different houses. How is it good for the kids to see the parents not talking to one another? Or the parents yelling and screaming at each other and fall onto yelling at the kids when they lose patience? Is this better for the kids? If the parents split, then they would not be yelling at each other, and be happier with their life, and therefore they will have two happy parents, separately, instead of two parents together who are not really together.
What is a good cause for divorce? I ask this again, and maybe your readers can help me out here. How does one decide that it is good time to divorce? Is a separation trial in order? Is it best to have one move out and for the couple to see if that works out? But if money is tight, where is the one spouse who moves out going? Can he really afford a hotel? Do you include an outside party and stay there? Which brings me to the next question, at what point do you tell people? I mean if you are going to have one of you stay by someone else’s place, which means they know. And my feeling is if one knows, then it is not a secret anymore. When do you tell your parents? How do you tell them? How does one go about it?!
If the kids are young, how do you explain things to them? Especially when you don’t want everyone to know yet. Does one parent move away? Live in the same city or away? Who stays home and who goes? Who lives with the kids who does not? When is a good time to acquire a divorce lawyer or counseling? Does counseling really help?
Thanks for posting this BasTorah. Hope someone out there has answers for me.
How after x amount of years with kids in tow, do you wake up and decide; now I don’t want to live with my spouse anymore. Now is as good of a time as any to move out. I am not happy. I am miserable, so why suffer any longer?! Why do I have to sacrifice my life for the sake of my kids? Isn’t it going to affect them either way? I mean having a mother and father who don’t show any love or seem to bicker constantly would have the same affect on them or even worse off than having the parents live in different houses. How is it good for the kids to see the parents not talking to one another? Or the parents yelling and screaming at each other and fall onto yelling at the kids when they lose patience? Is this better for the kids? If the parents split, then they would not be yelling at each other, and be happier with their life, and therefore they will have two happy parents, separately, instead of two parents together who are not really together.
What is a good cause for divorce? I ask this again, and maybe your readers can help me out here. How does one decide that it is good time to divorce? Is a separation trial in order? Is it best to have one move out and for the couple to see if that works out? But if money is tight, where is the one spouse who moves out going? Can he really afford a hotel? Do you include an outside party and stay there? Which brings me to the next question, at what point do you tell people? I mean if you are going to have one of you stay by someone else’s place, which means they know. And my feeling is if one knows, then it is not a secret anymore. When do you tell your parents? How do you tell them? How does one go about it?!
If the kids are young, how do you explain things to them? Especially when you don’t want everyone to know yet. Does one parent move away? Live in the same city or away? Who stays home and who goes? Who lives with the kids who does not? When is a good time to acquire a divorce lawyer or counseling? Does counseling really help?
Thanks for posting this BasTorah. Hope someone out there has answers for me.
posted by BasTorah at Monday, June 27, 2005
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